Do you shake in your boots when you’re around a woman that you’re attracted to? Does your blood pressure shoot through the roof and do you suffer from paralysis of the brain?
Perhaps you find that when you’re with people you already know, you are very adept at conversation. But in the presence of a woman, especially an attractive one, you can’t even put two words together. Your strategy in these instances is either to look the other way and ignore her, or make a clumsy effort that fails.
If this describes you, don’t be too hard on yourself. The majority of men behave similarly at the sight of an attractive woman. The degree of this reaction depends on the individual.
Those who seem to be truly gifted have lots of experience at this. However, meeting and attracting women is nothing more than a skill. Some suggestions to help you out:
1.) You will want to seem comfortable, relaxed and confident. This means having an easy smile and behaving in a manner that seems natural. Your posture should be good which means that you mustn’t hunch your back when sitting or walking.
Refrain from taking quick little steps when you walk. When walking, try to do it with the ease of an athlete. Be sure that you speak clearly and loud enough for her to hear you.
One way to maintain a relaxed exterior is to be relaxed on the inside. If your heart and pulse are racing too fast, you’ll come across as very tense and rigid. You will tend make mistakes like speaking too fast or interrupting her when she is talking.
Anxiousness has a way of making us do things that make us feel foolish.
2.) Steer clear of the cliches that Hollywood uses in its movies and avoid pick up lines. Doing this will transform you from the person you truly are into a complete joke. The usual compliments about her appearance should not be made.
Instead, make an observation about the surroundings. She may possess something that can give you an idea of what she is about.
Question her about this and then focus mindfully on what ever she says. Her answer will reveal more about herself which gives you a chance to question her further. When you notice the things that you have in common, you can add some of your own insights.
It’s important to understand that what you say is less important than how you say it. It’s essential to project confidence and a feeling of warmth..
3.) Doing all of the above may seem a bit overwhelming. Remember that this is a skill and will require effort and time to master. Therefore you will learn this in small incremental steps.
These suggestions need to be practiced every day whenever circumstances permit. It doesn’t matter whether you are waiting in line at a store, or waiting for your clothes to dry at a laundromat. When opportunity knocks, start a conversation with the woman next to you.
Don’t think or fret about it, just start talking. After doing this for several weeks you will see a big improvement.
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