No man is immune to the rejection of a woman and the fear of it. It does not make you less of a man to admit you’re afraid of it too. Admit it. Approaching women scares the hell out of you. It is okay to say so.
Here are two fundamental ways to approach girls:
Approach 1 - Have a plan for opening and exiting Having an escape route that can be taken if the conversation is not flowing well takes a lot of pressure out of knowing exactly what to say next. A well timed exit strategy is super important to avoid those awkward moments of silence. This can make things easier for you by know exactly what you want to say before you say it, kind of like spell check, but for your opener!
Approach 2: Just do! Don’t Think! This may seem like a crazy and over-simplistic method, but eventually, this is where you want to be with your confidence. Admit it, if you have to preplan in your brain every time you see a girl you want to approach you’re going to be thinking about it while some other guy is doing it!
Take these four tips with you no matter which approach you decide to take
#1 Tip to Approach Girls: Game On! The game starts the minute you come into view of the girl you want to approach. You should be properly dressed for the venue, even better than the other guys. You need to make sure your attire is sending her the right signals. Stand up straight, pull your shoulders back and push your chest forward. Looking confident and relaxed in your body language will help the available women who are secretly scouting out attractive men find you even easier.
#2 Tip to Approach Girls: Choose Wisely! It is okay to be choosy. Is she alone? Is she with other guys or girls? Does she appear preoccupied? Does she look available? It won’t always be easy because the attractive women usually are not by themselves, which makes the game a bit harder.
Tip 3 to Approach Girls: Make Eye Contact! If you make eye contact with a woman, which should be attempted before any approach, and she maintains that contact, she definitely is interested. It may not always be possible to make eye contact, but make sure you attempt it every time! And don’t be the guy who she stares at because you have mustard on your shirt!
Tip 4 to Approach Girls: Smiles = Confidence! If your smile is genuine, she will smile back at you. Make sure that when you make eye contact you are smiling! If she doesn’t smile back, don’t be alarmed. Watch her subtlety to see if she keeps glancing back at you. If she does, even if she didn’t smile, she is expecting you to approach her. Just make sure the look on her face isn’t “Oh God I hope he doesn’t come over here.” That one is an easy read.
Just remember men, WOMEN WANT YOU TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE BECAUSE THEY WON’T!
Once you finally make your approach, be yourself! Listen INTENTLY to what she has to say so that you can respond intelligently and actually keep the conversation flowing naturally.
Last suggestion: Don’t take it too seriously. If you’re comfortable, she will be too. Good Luck!
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