Ever wonder how some guys have this almost magic ability to attract women like a magnet? Perhaps they’re handsome or it’s their body size and build.
These physical attributes can make a difference but they aren’t as essential as another factor. The one obstacle that is most important is psychological and has to do with your behavior.
Two of your biggest enemies in this respect are:
1.) Being passive - If you don’t have a love life don’t expect any help from fate. If you believe that a perfect woman for you is out there and that she’ll be delivered to you by fate is just romantic nonsense.
Things don’t change by doing nothing. If nothing is happening in your love life something has to be done about it. You will have to exert a great deal of effort to get it going.
This passiveness could be a part of your personality. Or you may have believe incorrectly that things will ultimately work out for the best in the end. But when you make a habit of actively solving your problems, your life will improve greatly.
2.) Lack of confidence or poor self esteem - Not having confidence will defeat you in two ways. First, you’ll find it too difficult to even approach a woman. If you do, you’ll most likely be paralyzed or say the wrong things. You will find it impossible to deal with the inevitable rejections that are a fact of life in the dating scene.
Second, women can’t resist confident and self assured men. If you don’t have it, you’re missing a needed element to becoming attractive to women. Without confidence, there’s only women who might find your shyness attractive.
This may occur if you’ve got an unusual strength or quality. But the odds aren’t in your favor.
Confidence can be learned. It will require that you get in there and gain experience. When starting out, don’t think of winning over a woman as a do or die thing. You’re better off treating it as a kind of exercise where you learn from your mistakes and get better with each try.
Getting over passivity and lack of confidence could be all that you’ll need to do. But you won’t really know until you’ve tried.
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