The first initial time that you approach a woman in a bar or club is going to be awkward at best. The clumsiness you thought was gone is back and is mad as hell. The fumbling towards ecstasy has arrived and you are now face to face with that dancing queen, what to do?
The first thing you do is relax and take a deep deep cleansing breath. There, feel a little better? Good. real good. Now loosen up your shoulder and above all else look confident, as if you know that you are going to be doing this girl a huge favor. She is yours, dominate her with your baffling bull-crap and she will be dancing, dirty dancing, so close to you next song. Promise.
How to talk to women in bars and clubs is a science and an art, that takes time and practice to master. It isn’t something that is done overnight. A little practice and you, or anyone else can do this. The more you do it, the more natural you will feel.
The point is this, every woman loves a challenge. It is innate, and it is something they cannot deny that they like. The reasons go farther than what we have time for in this article but trust me, there is a strong compelling force that draws them to the thrill of the chase. It can be on either side of the fence, they can be chased or they can be the chaser.
Regardless, as long as there exist challenge, then it will be a long-lasting situation at best. They will want to hear your answering machine and you must realize that they mane of the game is the thrill of the chase. The fact is there and it is that every woman loves a challenge. The thrill of the chase is what drives many relationships all the way to their end, if there is an end. The thrill better not be dead.
The author answers questions and heres how to get girl back. Or for the ladies, learn how to get boyfriend.
Getting a girl to like you is actually quite easy. The trick is to be focused on first finding a girl that shows interest. Many guys get caught up on one girl. If the girl doesn’t like you, you can’t try to fight human nature. First you have to find a girl, be presentable, and be interesting. Once you have sparked the interest, many girls will like you and it will happen automatically. The trick is getting enough girls interested in talking with you.
It sounds easier than it is, but it certainly is easier than some people make it. It may be work to approach all of these girls, talk to them in a similar way, and see if it works, and then repeat the process to different girls with a different approach, but if you do, you will probably not only find success, but when you do, you will have a method that will result in success much more consistently.
So how do you get a girl to like you? You need to be different, unique, and usually fun. Although the ladies will find different things interesting than you will, and even than other ladies will, girls almost always do not like plain and boring. They do like exciting and unique, and adventurous. There are two ways to go about it, either decide what you want, and then figure out what that girl is interested in, or figure out what type of guy you are, and what type of girls are interested in who you are. Being yourself and finding someone who likes who you are is pretty self explanatory, but odds are youre hear because youve tried that, and you cant seem to know what girls are interested in you, or you havent tried it. So we will start with finding a girl you like
Figure out what makes girls feel good, what makes them laugh, and what doesn’t, and at what stages in time. You need to actually practice getting girls interest and attention, and that may mean failing a few times, but if you can get through those failures, you will learn to become more comfortable with your approach, and more confident. Confidence is built through experience. If you had all the confidence in the world that you were going to be an expert in brain surgery, but didnt have any experiences or degree, chances are people arent going to want you operating on them, and once you start, halfway into it you will find you are not as confident as you were because theres so much you dont know. If you do not have experience, you will not know what to say, or how to feel comfortable in certain situations
The problem with many guys is they don’t have enough girls that they talk to, and they dont get specific on what they want, so while one method might work very well for one set of girls, it might fail completely with another. Without keeping things consistent, it is hard to find any one method of success.
The solution to this problem is to actually try some things out. Don’t just expect something to work every time, you have to try the same exact method several times. Only then can you assume it’s not that effective for you personally in that environment. Change that method slightly and try again. Once you have found a method that gets girls interested, you just have to approach enough of them, until you find one that has enough in common, and who’s feelings will grow until they really start to like you. This may just be the beginning but it is a very crucial step. The method of trying, trying, and trying again, then using your feedback to change, and then trying and trying again until you have the right “formula” is almost a surefire method to getting girls to like you at least enough to show interest in taking the next step. Once you have that “formula”, you can repeat it with the girl you want to attract, and the more you spend time with her, the more likely she is to develop an interest. That may seem like a long process, but it’s different for everyone, some people are funny, others are strong and silent, and sometimes girls like different things, there’s no surefire way to get a girl to like you that works for everyone.
