Have you ever heard someone say that you have to make sure every single thing you say to a girl has to be unexpected or out of the ordinary when you first meet her, or she’ll lose interest?
I have a different view. I think you can use ordinary boring conversational topics to your advantage, if you do it right. And I’ll teach you how to do it right.
What are the “ordinary” questions we’re talking about?
What’s your occupation?
Are you in school?
How old are your children?
Where did you grow up?
Of course you don’t want to ask question after question like this, or she’ll feel like she’s on a job interview. But there’s a right way to go about asking these questions and still flirt well.
This is the magic formula:
TYPICAL QUESTION FLIRTING FORMULA: after she responds to your “typical question”, be ready to be PLAYFUL with her answer.
I will often, very early in the conversation, ask a woman what she does for a living, or, ifshe’s in school, I’ll ask her what she’s studying.
And then, I play with her answer.
Like this:
If she says she’s a massage therapist, I say, “Oh good, so if I suddenly get the worst cramp ever in my hand, you’d totally be able to heal me, right?”
This will ordinarily elicit laughter and a playful spirit from her. She also gets the feeling that you like her for something other than her cuteness, and that you think she could contribute to the social group in some way.
Don’t worry about every guy using this line after reading this article either. Women never get tired of this kind of playful role-playing.
Take this approach for a spin. Use it on women you’re interested in, and even one’s you’re not interested in. It doesn’t hurt to get the practice in, and put a smile on someone’s face.
Use it with store clerks, your aunts at the family reunion, little old ladies. They all love it!
Tyler Paxon Ph.D. is the founder of the How To Flirt website. Take his free quiz at http://how2flirt.com
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